Pray about Everything

Guest Blogger: Bob Prentice

My family and I went on vacation over the 4th of July. Our plans were set, reservations made, newspaper and mail stopped, bags packed. As we made a last pass through our house to make sure we hadn’t forgotten anything, I looked out the sliding glass doors in the kitchen and saw our plants. It hit me that we had no plans for taking care of our plants.

We have 16 flower pots on our back deck. They are filled with pansies, petunias, marigolds, and elephant ear caladiums. On a cool day they need a heavy soaking to stay healthy. On a hot day, they need at least two soakings to keep them from wilting.

The weather was forecast to be hot (mid to high 90s). I said to my wife, “Our plants might die.” She agreed. We’ve had times in past years when a missed watering resulted in dehydrated plants that never fully recovered. Three or four days in high heat with no water might kill them.

I lamented to my wife, “Well, that’s the price of going on vacation.”

As we were backing out of our driveway, I was thinking about our flowers and was a little sad because they gave me pleasure. The flowers were arranged on our deck so we could see them through our sliding glass doors. I enjoyed looking at them in the morning when I prepared breakfast and in the evening when I drank my coffee. They provided a sense of peace in a hurried world.

As we drove past our house a thought flashed in my mind, “You have not, because you ask not” (James 4:2). Another thought followed, “Pray about everything” (Philippians 4:6).

So I said a silent prayer right then asking our Lord to watch over our plants and protect them. I thought that praying for plants seemed like a pretty minor thing to pray about. But then I remembered a discussion we had in a small group about bringing EVERYTHING to God in prayer. And the verse, “You have not, because you ask not,” is pretty compelling. It would be hard to convey the meaning more directly. So I added prayers for our plants to my daily prayers while we were on vacation.

On our return trip I became anxious as we climbed Robinson Hill Road and headed towards our house. I thought that the plants were OK, but I wanted to see them to confirm it. When we arrived home, I walked straight to the kitchen and looked out. The plants looked wonderful. The elephant ears had grown and we had some of the biggest ears we’ve ever had. The petunias had new growth and many new flowers. Everything was thriving.

On seeing all of this, I gave praises to our Lord. I am passing this on to you that He may be honored when you read this and that you may be encouraged to bring EVERYTHING to our Lord in prayer.

Our plants after we returned

Bob Prentice is a software engineer with a passion for prayer. He and his wife, Jan, lead a weekly prayer group. They can often be found in the prayer room during worship services at their church, New Life Ministries in Endicott, NY. This post originated as an e-mail in July 2010.

How to Pray

“For a few years I have struggled with prayer, as to whether I was doing it ‘correctly,’” a friend wrote. I was surprised by her statement because she has been a devout Catholic all her life. Yet, after reflection, I believe her struggle is universal. I often refer to Philippians 4:6 (NLT), “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.” But how should we pray?

The old adage “Honesty is the best policy” is good advice in human relationships and our relationship with God. Rather than pretending to have it all together, we can come to God with our weakness. We can confess that we are worried and fearful, that we don’t trust him fully. Only when we’re honest can we ask for what we really need.

This is why I love the story of the father whose son was afflicted with an evil spirit. He asked Jesus to heal the boy (Mark 9:22-24):

“… if you can do anything, take pity on us and help us.”
“‘If you can’?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for him who believes.”
Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!”

Can’t we all identify with that father? We waver between faith and doubt, between trusting God and questioning his love for us. But like the father, we can cry out, “I trust you. Help me trust you more.”

In her blog, Cynthia Bezek tells about a man who prayed the same prayers, day after day, until, one day, God told him, “Bryan, you’re boring.” This encounter transformed Bryan’s prayers, reminding him that God seeks an authentic relationship with us. Just as Moses talked to God “face to face, as a man speaks with his friend” (Exodus 33:11), we can talk to God, tell him all our fears and worries, and allow him to respond with his infinite wisdom.

Prayer Works

God amazes me with his answers to prayer. Let me share one example. My mother lives in a nursing home in Albuquerque, far from my sisters and me. She has macular degeneration and has been legally blind for seven or eight years. Recently her vision deteriorated further and she lost the ability to read large print books. She was very discouraged, especially because she couldn’t read her Bible.

About that time, my mom’s roommate died. I prayed for her next roommate to be a good fit. A few days later her new roommate, Donna, answered the phone when I called. She told me she’d served as a missionary in Indonesia and had read to blind people. I asked if she would read to my mother. She said they had already talked about that. I had prayed for a kind roommate and God provided someone who can read to my mom. No wonder the apostle Paul describes God as the one who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine…” (Ephesians 3:20).

God’s astonishing power and his gracious answers to prayer encourage me to pray instead of worrying. My mom’s new roommate is only one answer to recent prayers. Some answers have come almost immediately—a friend’s daughter who was facing a 90-day residential treatment program for substance abuse issues improved the day my small group prayed for her, so she can be treated as an outpatient. Other answers have taken longer, teaching me to persevere in prayer.

I’ve started praying about issues at work also. For example, I helped coworkers develop a complex database. At one point we hit a brick wall. No matter what we tried, we couldn’t get certain fields in the data entry form to automatically fill. Our frustration level skyrocketed. On the way home I prayed about the problem. A day or two later I woke up in the middle of the night with the phrase “auto-fill” in my mind. I wrote the phrase down, did a Google search the next morning and found detailed instructions with a worked example. Those were sufficient to show us how to redesign the tables and their relationships and produce a query that worked. This sort of thing has happened so often lately that both my supervisor and I recognize that Romans 8:28 is true: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him….”

Knowing that God can solve problems I can’t has set me free from much worry. Paul’s words to the early Christians at Philippi are spot on: “Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life” (Philippians 4:6-7, The Message).

As Christ becomes the center of my life, my natural pessimism is giving way to a brimming optimism. God truly can accomplish far more than anything I can ask or imagine.

Face Your Fear

I’ve overcome my fear of flying. How? Drum roll, please…. I’ve been flying. A lot. In the last nine months, I’ve boarded twenty-five planes. What had been frightening has become routine. I take off my coat and shoes at security, remove liquids and laptop, and then reclaim them all after passing through the metal detector or full-body scanner. On the plane, the sensations of acceleration or deceleration and the noises that accompany takeoff and landing have become familiar. I’ve come to realize that turbulence doesn’t last and doesn’t mean the plane is going to crash.

This process is called habituation. If you expose yourself frequently to an anxiety-provoking stimulus, the response (fear, anxiety or panic) gradually decreases. In other words, your comfort level will increase each time you fly.

If you can’t imagine yourself boarding a plane, let me explain how I found the courage to fly. It came from prayers—my own and those of my friends. We prayed for “traveling mercies”—good weather, no missed connections, no lost luggage—and most importantly peace of mind. It came also from meditating on Scriptures like Isaiah 41:10: “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Are you still unconvinced? Look no further than the story of David facing the nine-foot giant, Goliath. While the soldiers in the Israelite army were terrified by Goliath, David had the courage to fight him. What weapons did he use? A slingshot, five smooth stones and the confidence that God was on his side. These were sufficient. David killed Goliath. Likewise, with God’s help you can slay the giant of fear. Face your fear, trusting God to provide the courage you need.

One Thing — Part Two

How can we spend our days with Jesus? We start in the morning, when we first awaken, remembering “When I awake, I am still with you.” (Psalm 139:18). We thank God for the gift of a new day and life itself. We ask for his help to stay awake and aware of his presence.

Throughout the day we use external cues to remind us to pray—one friend prays every time she stops at a traffic light. If we feel worried about something, we let that remind us to pray. That way worry will not drive us away from God, but rather into his arms.

We end each day in prayer, asking the Holy Spirit to guard our minds and hearts through the night.

Our ultimate goal is to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17), as Ruth Ann mentioned in her comment on my previous post. Frank Laubach, a missionary and founder of the Each One Teach One literacy program, accomplished this through his Game With Minutes: “Try to call Christ to mind at least one second of each minute. You do not need to forget other things nor stop your work, but invite Him to share everything you do or say or think.”

As we train our minds to pray continually, we will find the God whom we’ve been seeking and discover that he was the initiator; he was the one seeking us.

Gift of Peace

I still remember the gift my parents gave me for Christmas in 1979. Why? Because it was the perfect gift—a 45-piece set of Lenox Temper-ware® dishes in the Dewdrops pattern. Decorated with impressionistic white daisies amidst a spattered blue sky and rimmed in colonial blue, the plates, bowls, cups, and saucers were beautiful and durable. I was a single student who’d been using cheap melamine dishes, so these were a vast improvement. Even my roommates were thrilled.

As wonderful as those dishes were, Jesus offers a better gift: “I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid” (John 14:27). How can we receive this gift? The answer is found in Phil. 4:6-7: “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

Simply reading this passage didn’t allow me to receive the gift of peace. What did?

  • I stopped depending on myself and started depending on God. Whenever I faced some difficulty, I’d tell God about it and ask for his help.
  • I recited verses like “See, God has come to save me. I will trust in him and not be afraid” (Isaiah 12:2). As I spoke such verses aloud, I gradually came to believe them—not only in my mind but also in my heart.
  • I started to “thank him for all he has done.” As I took the time to notice how God had answered my prayers in the past, I became better able to trust him in the present.
  • I learned to dismiss fearful thoughts, turning them over to Christ.

Has all worry been banished? No, but worry doesn’t consume me the way it used to. And now if I catch myself worrying, I immediately stop and pray. Usually that’s sufficient to restore the “peace which exceeds anything we can understand.”

What keeps you from trusting God fully?

Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright ©1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

Travel Plans

Last summer my husband and I helped our son move from upstate New York to California, stopping in Albuquerque to visit my mother and pick up her furniture. (She moved to a nursing home last spring, so some of her furniture went to a storage mall.) Preparing for the eight-day trip was daunting—we purchased airline tickets for the three legs of the trip and made reservations for one guest apartment, two hotels and three vehicles (including a U-Haul truck.) I also made arrangements with my mom’s nursing home and a pianist for my son to give a cello recital while we were there. (Yes, we bought a plane ticket for the cello, thinking it was more likely to arrive intact if it traveled in the passenger cabin with us.) I was tempted to worry about the trip many times, so I prayed a lot about the details.

Because the cost to rent a minivan at the Albuquerque airport was prohibitive, we reserved a full-size sedan, aware that we might need to make two trips to shuttle four of us, five suitcases, the cello and a guitar from the airport to our guest apartment. When we arrived, no full-size sedans were available, however, so we were offered a free upgrade to a minivan. Once the attendant folded the third-row seats into the floor, the cavernous space swallowed our luggage and musical instruments without difficulty, leaving four seats for us. Coincidence? An unknown writer once said, “A coincidence is when God chooses to remain anonymous.” This was the first of a series of coincidences where I saw God’s hand at work.

Such experiences remind me why it is better to pray than worry. Although I’m not in control, God is. He makes better arrangements than I can. I should pray for guidance before I make plans, but then I can trust God to refine or revise them as he sees fit. Proverbs16:9 (NRSV) says, “The human mind plans the way, but the Lord directs the steps.” Recalling this verse helps me trust God to guide me as I plan for the future.

Do you see God as a loving Father who will direct your steps? Why or why not?

New Revised Standard Version Bible, copyright © 1989 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Driving Practice

My son turned 16 last spring. He couldn’t wait to take the written exam at the Department of Motor Vehicles so he could get his learner permit. My husband took him out to practice driving for the first few months, but I’ve screwed up my courage enough to ride with him now. It’s still anxiety provoking. Why? Because when my son is driving, I am not in control. Sure, I can tell him where to go and when to slow down or stop, but I’m dependent upon his following my instructions. (We’ve taken a few unexpected detours.) I long for one of those passenger-side brakes that the driver education cars have. Instead, like the mother in the Zits comic strip, I find myself stomping on the floor mat when a collision seems imminent.

Life is a lot like teaching our children to drive. Although we prefer to be in the driver’s seat, often we’re not. Illness, job loss, storms—these and other situations remind us that ultimately we are not in control. The uncertainty causes us to worry. Fortunately, there is someone who is in control—the God who created the universe. Whenever we begin to worry because of circumstances beyond our control, we can turn to God in prayer.

That’s the message of Philippians 4:6-7 (The Message): “Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.”

Let worry become a reminder to pray. Pour out your heart to God. If you’re not sure he exists, express your doubts. Tell him what you’re facing and how you’re feeling. Ask for his help. Then let his presence “settle you down” as you wait patiently and attentively to see what he will do.