Driving Practice

My son turned 16 last spring. He couldn’t wait to take the written exam at the Department of Motor Vehicles so he could get his learner permit. My husband took him out to practice driving for the first few months, but I’ve screwed up my courage enough to ride with him now. It’s still anxiety provoking. Why? Because when my son is driving, I am not in control. Sure, I can tell him where to go and when to slow down or stop, but I’m dependent upon his following my instructions. (We’ve taken a few unexpected detours.) I long for one of those passenger-side brakes that the driver education cars have. Instead, like the mother in the Zits comic strip, I find myself stomping on the floor mat when a collision seems imminent.

Life is a lot like teaching our children to drive. Although we prefer to be in the driver’s seat, often we’re not. Illness, job loss, storms—these and other situations remind us that ultimately we are not in control. The uncertainty causes us to worry. Fortunately, there is someone who is in control—the God who created the universe. Whenever we begin to worry because of circumstances beyond our control, we can turn to God in prayer.

That’s the message of Philippians 4:6-7 (The Message): “Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.”

Let worry become a reminder to pray. Pour out your heart to God. If you’re not sure he exists, express your doubts. Tell him what you’re facing and how you’re feeling. Ask for his help. Then let his presence “settle you down” as you wait patiently and attentively to see what he will do.

Cleaning Out Closets

A few years ago a friend sent me a link to an article by Meredith Jordan about giving away twenty-seven things a day for nine days (http://www.gratefulness.org/readings/27_things.htm). The point was to “loosen those attachments [to things] to make room for what’s truly meaningful.” I didn’t count the items I discarded last summer (doesn’t that seem a bit OCD anyway?) but I cleaned out closets, cubbyholes and the basement with my family’s help. I donated bedding to migrant farm workers and clothing to a thrift store. I gave a carload of odds and ends to a friend to sell at his garage sale. I recycled an old computer at the hazardous waste facility and put countless bins of paper out at the curb for recycling. I (gasp!) threw away things that were useless. As each bag or box left the house, I felt a growing sense of freedom. My possessions no longer possessed me.

In her book, Having a Mary Spirit, Joanna Weaver lists twenty-seven things we should clean out of our spiritual closets as well. She includes fear and worry on her list. Of course it’s not as simple as packing up these negative emotions and habits and leaving them out at the curb. We don’t eliminate fear and worry by consciously trying to discard them. Instead it’s a process of turning around, shifting our focus from our problems to the One who has the solutions—the God who created the universe. It’s a process of admitting we are powerless against worry and allowing God’s limitless power to accomplish what we can’t. It’s a process of learning to put our trust in God’s abilities rather than our own.

How can your trust in God grow? I believe the answer is twofold. First, read and meditate on Bible verses which encourage you to trust God. (If you know how to worry, you know how to meditate—simply mull the verse over in your mind.) Try praying a verse back to God. For example, rephrase Proverbs 3:5 as “I trust you, Lord, with all my heart. Help me trust you more.” Then take a leap of faith and start trusting God in small things, to prove whether he’s trustworthy. As your trust grows, you’ll experience a growing sense of freedom from fear and worry. Here are a few verses to get you started.

“Those who know your name will trust in you,
for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you.” Psalm 9:10

When I am afraid,
I will trust in you. Psalm 56:3

Trust in him at all times, O people;
pour out your hearts to him,
for God is our refuge. Psalm 62:8

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

“God is the one who saves me;
I will trust him and not be afraid.
The Lord, the Lord gives me strength and makes me sing.
He has saved me.” Isaiah 12:2 (New Century Version)

You will keep in perfect peace
him whose mind is steadfast,
because he trusts in you.
Trust in the Lord forever,
for the Lord, the Lord, is the Rock eternal. Isaiah 26:3-4

Have you found other Bible verses that encourage you to trust God? What else helps your trust in God grow?

Scripture taken from The Holy Bible, New Century Version, copyright © 1987, 1988, 1991 by Word Publishing, Dallas, Texas 75039. Used by permission.

Flood Watch

God is our refuge and strength,
an ever-present help in trouble.
Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way
and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,
though its waters roar and foam
and the mountains quake with their surging. Psalm 46:1-3

Rivers are rising, homes and businesses are evacuated and schools are closed here in Broome County, as remnants of tropical storm Lee pummel the area. I could easily succumb to fear and worry as I listen to the rain pounding on my roof and watch the TV weather report which forecasts record flooding. But instead these verses came to mind. I don’t need to fear because God is my refuge and strength. He is an ever-present help in trouble, whether the earth quakes or flood waters rise.

When storms threaten, do you have somewhere to turn? Who do you depend on?